Over the weekend, I was telling a friend about the situation Connor has been in for the past few years. She was shocked to hear Connor was being bullied at school. The reason for her shock is because at church and stuff, he's very respected and popular. It's not that he's getting beat up all the time, but he's being bullied verbally and emotionally by his peers at school almost on a daily basis. Sometimes there is some pushing around.
Anyways, I've been examining my reaction to this over the years. During earlier instances, I would advise Connor to follow the school rules; don't fight back, find a teacher, and tell the teacher what happened. Right away, Sheldon advised him to punch right back but I really wanted to avoid a physical confrontation. As years go by and I see that this method is not working, I have come to terms with Connor physically defending himself if he needs to. I mean, that's the whole reason why we put him in kung fu in the first place...to learn how to defend himself. Now I find myself saying "deck him one if he touches you".
This poses another question. Why are kids so mean these days? If we lived in China or Japan, being smart would be cool. But in North America, if you're smart then you're a nerd. But it doesn't stop at just that. One kid makes racial remarks to Connor! Who does that nowadays? Nevertheless, I called the school right away when I heard about this and told the teacher this should not be happening. It's so wrong.
We are fed up with this. We hate seeing our child's self-esteem diminishing. We're trying to come up with a solution with the school but are afraid it's falling on deaf ears. What is a parent to do?
Oh and just to update you on me...I am still sick. I have no clue why this is lasting for so long. I hate being sick.
3 comments:
I have a link on my blog to another blog - Jessica Black - her son has endured bullying as well. He's about 8 or 9 years old. Recently, she got called into the school because he had tied another student to a tree (If I recall properly). She had to disapprove but was happy that he was standing up for himself.
Whatever you do, don't go storming into the schoolyard, shouting and threatening the kids who are bullying him.
I vividly remember when a dad came into the schoolyard and basically threatened to beat the tar out of the kids who'd been making fun of his kid. He looked like an idiot and his kid probably suffered all the more for it.
I don't have any solutions for you, just warnings.
Note taken...I'll tell Sheldon not to do that.
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